what is important? - the appearence or attitude

I love the hour of the day I spend in bus while going to my work place. This is the best hour I get to think. Today I got an thought that man and woman are the names we have given to classify gender but actually they are the names of attitudes. Mard ya orat hona ap ki physical existance ne btati bl k the way u think and act decides that you are man or woman. hmari society may boht se mrd ase hn jo k asl may ort hn or boht si oraten asi hn jo k mrd hn. mrd is the symbol of strength and bravery, moshkil or shkht jan qism k bnde ko mrd khte hn and orat is the name of flexibility, beauty and fragility. ab ye hm ne decide krna he k hm gender wise mrd ya ort hn ya attitude wise? Their is a third gender in our society too that is heejra. Basically its an attitude too. You can see many heejras around u not physically but by attitude who want to create tmasha all the time. Who do not have depth in them who do not have clear objectives of their life to be spent likewise.The women of our society feel proud to be called the mothers of men. The whole life they keep giving birth to the girls in the hope of getting  a son. We are more concerned with physical appearances than thinking levels. Another interesting thing which can b observed with amusement is that we try to develop the attitude by our get ups, some girls love to dress them up like boys, they like to ride bikes and try to talk and walk like boys. Same can be observed in boys' side. I get a laugh at them that that your appearance will not decide your traits but your attitude, your thinking and actions are gonna decide that.